WOMEN'S MOTIVATIONAL TYPES
IN THE CURRENT climate of mass on-line-dating and the male street pick-up-artist (PUA) culture, it’s probably important for men to hear a bit about the reality of female sexuality from a feminine perspective. Why? Because the understanding between men and women seems to be increasingly based on failed or misinterpreted communication.
Male experts on the entrepreneurial dating scene claim they know it all, discussing prolifically amongst themselves how to seduce a woman, what women want/need most and what women are truly like. And yet there appears to be absolutely no input or feedback anywhere online from the women they have seduced. The female voice is absent from the male discussion, which strikes me as more than a little odd.
So, I’ve put together some alternative ideas, gathered from a life time of experience of observing men and women in different countries and languages. What I have observed (and this is seriously NOT from reading women’s magazines and chick-movies!) is that women have a variety of motivations for dating and having sex with a man. It is not just about sex. I have written the following with great amusement and with a huge love of my sisters and brothers. God knows, we all (men and women alike) do what we have to do, or can do, to survive in this crazy world.
I don’t think any of the different female types that I am about to describe, have any one typical appearance. Maybe. Maybe not. What I mean is that I don’t think a man will necessarily be able to tell the motivation of a woman by her physical appearance or the clothes she wears. Perhaps he can tell by her body-language, but this may be subtle, in-congruent and deceptive. Women are after all notoriously mysterious. There are, however, two basics that a man needs to understand before he can proceed… certainly before a man takes rejection as a personal insult or put down.
Firstly, a woman’s external appearance may be driven by peer pressure, media images and the wish to fit in, to appear ‘normal’. She may be sending the classic signals for wanting sex through her make-p and chosen attire, but in fact she doesn’t really want it very much, or even at all. She wants connection. She may feel very uncomfortable about her sexuality, because women are encouraged by media and marketing to behave and dress in a certain way. In short, just because a woman appears curvy, lush, sexily dressed and open, it doesn’t mean that she necessarily feels that way. She may be very inexperienced or have complexes and problems about her appearance beneath the surface. She might not be aware that she is ‘leading a man on’ or ‘teasing his cock’. She might not even be aware that a man is trying to flirt with her. If she is open, she might just really love the conversation and the company. She might be fascinated by the man, because he seems so different to other men… she feels safe and unthreatened by his presence. She may not realise or sense that he is physically aroused by her presence. She may think it is a wonderful opportunity to have a deeply interesting, intellectual and soulful conversation with a strange man about life, without feeling like he necessarily wants anything else from her or that his main motivation is sex. She may think that he likes HER, and not just her body. Some women yearn for respect intellectually, not just physically. Some beautiful women are perhaps tired of being stared at because of their physical beauty. Men need to now that beautiful women are not just walking cunts or pussies. They maybe want a LOT more than a male cock.
Secondly, the biggest misunderstandings or disappointments in this dating game arise from the males lack of awareness of the females hidden motivations for having sex, be they conscious or unconscious. Men think about sex almost all the time. Many women do too, but for different reasons, as will be explained. Women are primarily biologically ‘nest builders’ and seek security for themselves and their offspring. Men are ‘seed spreaders’ and can father many children with little or no responsibility for the outcome, unless of course he is the mega responsible fatherly type, or his religion requires it, or the legal system states otherwise.
According to Ingo Swann, in is book Psychic Sexuality, the male sexual aura appears like a vertical stream of energy coming out of the top of his head with a flashing red light at the tip, rather like an erect penis. Women’s sexual energy appears as a long snake-like tentacle that comes out of the womb and probes about in the atmosphere in search of connection. Yes, men want to enjoy a woman’s company too. Yes, men want an interesting conversations. Yes, men want connection, but ultimately their intention and primary conscious goal is SEX. (See my blog: Seeing Through the Eyes of the Red Pill Man.) Men often don’t realise that this is not the case with women. Women may want sex, but their ultimate goal is typically much more complex that that.
The Different Female Motivational Types
I will start with the base vibrational types, moving on to the more earthly types and then on to the higher realms of spiritual connection. Women may sometimes be a strangely disarming and confusing combination of all these types! That’s female mystery. I am sure there are female motivational types in the base and middle earth categories that are rooted in pure love and the adoration of the human spirit, but who lack a deeper or higher awareness of the impact of their behaviour. There are also those of pure malevolence, revenge and the desire for feminine power over men. Men will probably find what they are looking for or what they need according to their own vibrational quality.
BASE REALMS (LOW VIBRATION)
FEMALE MATERIALISTS: Some women want to get to the top of the material success ladder, no matter what it costs. They may not have a clue where the top really is nor the depths of the darkness they explore. They need money to fulfil their material aims, for example to look beautiful, to have plastic surgery, to compete with other women. They want to ensnare a man who is high status, who has the potential of earning a lot and who has alpha material gain written all over his being. They want to be the alpha female in his material world… maybe even steal it from him. She too will have material gain written all over her body. She may be beautiful, lush, stylish, but those curves may be made of silicone. Sex is her bartering tool, but there is no guarantee that she will give it to you. If you flirt with her she may converse with you to find out your potential, but she may only be biding her time, entertaining herself, until Mr. Alpha comes along. In the meantime, she will suck up your flirtatious comments and your adoring gaze like a drug for her own vanity. She may play sweet. She may find you amusing and entertaining for a while. She might even flirt with you in a bar or other public space, because she is bored and doesn’t have anything else to do. She may pretend interest skilfully, but she may (through you) be signalling to other men that she is desirable, because she is desired by you. When Mr. Alpha comes along she will do whatever she has to do to eliminate all other female competition, even put down a close female friend. How else can she achieve her goal of reaching the top? If you are her Mr. Alpha, she will have sex with you in any way you want. She is usually highly skilled at giving Mr. Alpha exactly what he wants, until he is captured. In the case of an older Sugar Daddy, sex may not be on the cards, but the ‘pretence’ of his Alpha potency is guaranteed by her.
BIMBOS and GROUPIES: These women want to get pregnant by the highest quality male sperm possible, without necessarily acquiring the man’s parental investment or consent. They want the best quality genetics for their kids and tend to choose a footballer, a sports hero, a rock star or a film star, with the possible intention of securing maintenance money through the courts, but much more importantly raising their status by association with his high status, fame and success. The ultimate motivation is to engage with the male sexual potency associated with high status, fame and success. Bad boys are particularly attractive for this reason, because of the increased potential of news headlines. This is the world of celebrities. Love doesn’t come into it. Rarely. It is more about the dynamics of vanity and ego, in a world where failure and imperfections are not tolerated. Men can have similar motivations for having sex with a beautiful woman, however the male criteria for a genetic match is not fame or fortune, rather ‘perfect physical attractiveness’. Strangely these men are seduced by the illusions of perfection that plastic surgery can create and are surprised when their progeny come out differently. But then celebrities are not necessarily famous for their intelligence.
DESPERADAS: These women are also desperate for fame, power and success. Unable to attain it on her own merit, she will attach herself to a famous, but maybe vulnerable and talented male genius, in order to secure fame for herself. She will try to dominate and possess such a man in order to secure her own fame by association. A good example of this motivational type is Courtney Love and her relationship with Curt Cobain. The man is something like the goose with the golden egg and the Desperada is prepared to cut the man open with a knife to get the golden egg. She will use every persuasive tactic in the book to get what she wants and control the man. She will pretend to be his psychic. She will flaunt herself sexually, even with other men to encourage his jealousy and dependency on her. She is scheming and spiritually ugly. Any physical beauty will usually be corroded over time by excesses and greed. Ultimately she is doomed to fail, simply because she has no real creative talent of her own and has fed on the talent of her man.
DOMESTICATED MOTHERS: There are the women who simply want material mediocrity, safety, security, certainty and motherhood. They use their feminine wiles and their sexuality to secure a husband that they can have children with. They want men who want this too. These men are usually insecure and quite boring BETA males. Once stability is set up with a reliable father, this type of woman can relax and indulge in material middle-class security and comforts. She might put on weight and become dis-interested in sex. This type of woman is irritatingly confident, possessive and boring with no other ambition in life apart from perhaps a yoga class once a week, Mum’s groups, and the making of cakes and dream-catchers. They might dabble in psychic powers and see angels everywhere, but really they haven’t a clue what they are talking about.
BIG IS BEAUTIFUL: These women may be geeky, intelligent, comical, extrovert, creative – and a lot of fun! They may or may not be physically attractive in the classic sense. The status of the men available to them is not very high. They may find it difficult to find an attractive permanent mate and therefore will open their legs to almost anything. They probably want children. They are usually sexually voracious, because they know this brings them the attention they crave. They will probably eat a lot of chocolate and insist that big is beautiful.
DOOR MATS: Some women are insecure and lonely, because of low social status, low self-esteem or low ‘market value’. They may also have been broken and abused or are simply dumb. They may be an unfortunate mix of all these traits. Never-the-less, like most women, they are desperately in need of love and attention from men. She may be willing to accept almost any man that will fuck her, even an abusive man, as if this is evidence of love. She may want to have a baby with these men, in order not to be lonely, as if the baby will give her a sense of completion, as if the man will then stay with her and support her. Some of these women may have several babies with a series of different fathers, but ironically some of these women actually hate and despise men’s fickleness, abuse and rejection and will secretly want to punish them for it. They blame their insecurities, tethers and loneliness on men, on whom they are dependent. They justify their anger against men through the identity of being a victim, but it is self-perpetuating and self-created.
MILK-MAIDS: Some woman are just ‘milk-maids’ with large breasts and large buttocks. They possess the sexuality and lack of subtlety of a tart or a whore… an animal even. They laugh very loudly. They are usually incredibly unintelligent. They sometimes have sweet faces and sweet smiles, but all or any of them will be easily persuaded to take their clothes off and exhibit their bodies in abusively pornographic ways, because they are dumb enough to believe that they are popular with men, can get what they want through their bodies and maybe earn lots of money in this way. Milk-maids are ‘page three girls’ perhaps, who think they’re on the ladder to success, because they have their naked picture in a cheap newspaper. They seem unconscious of the fact that this type of beauty fades. This type of woman is pathetic in the extreme. They will be used eternally by both men and woman in the games of life, but they will be kept in their place.
IMPORTANT NOTE: I am sure there are female motivational types in these base and middle earth categories that are rooted in pure love and the adoration of the human spirit, but also a lack of awareness of the impact of their behaviour. There are also those of pure malevolence, revenge and the desire for feminine power over men. The latter need to be recognised with compassion, but no pity, as pseudo divine and fake.
THE UPPER REALMS (HIGH VIBRATION)
THE SENSUAL WOMAN: There are women who simply love sex, for the sake of sex – women of all shapes and sizes and ages, very sensual beings, who think a LOT about sex and love sharing sex with the right person, be it man or woman. They might be lesbian and don’t necessarily need the attention of men. They can be naughty and dirty, but their goal is primarily sensuality and connection. The majority of these women openly and honestly admit that they orgasm rarely or solely through a man’s touch. Link to Danish documentary! Here, I have to remind or warn the excited man, that most women’s sexual motivation tends towards the desire for a long term relationship rather than one-night-stands, even in this category!
EDGE ARTISTS: These are the ones who dance on the edge of life and death and travel to parallel worlds either through mysticism, shamanism, the arts or wild adventures. They love the unusual and the strange. They are fascinated by the shadow. They are quite hard to find, but if they exist, you may find them in bohemian hang-outs, at art centres, museums and in the world of theatre and film. They love music, poetry, sculpture, painting, culture, history, science, philosophy and writing etc. They are open and curious about sex, because sex is at the centre of all creation and the arts. But they may not want children, because they want to focus primarily on their artistic creativity and not on rearing children. They are very independent and tend to want to go out with men who are wild, bad, creative, sexual and independent mavericks too.
MYSTICS and PRIESTESSES: Even more rare, but also found within the ‘edge artist’ category, these women are psychics, prophetesses and shape-shifters. They may well be actresses or spies. These are the women that Carlos Castadena describes in his book Don JUAN as either ‘stalkers’ or ‘dreamers’. The stalker hunts down truth. The dreamer dreams truth. They come in many guises and can sometimes appear beautiful and sometimes quite ordinary. These women are very sexual and very dangerous, because they can read you like an unopened book. They have the power to enchant you and transform you. They will introduce you to your SELF and your SHADOW. In this sense, sex is just a part of their conversation and their magic.
QUEENS & WARRIORS: And then there are the Lagerthas or female warriors of the world. They are very, very rare. They are polyamorous, but will defend their chosen man to the death. These woman want courage, truth, honesty, respect, beauty and integrity from their men.. not money. They see the soul of men, adore and respect their higher vibrational masculine vision, their powerful physicality, their cocks and their vigorous sexual potency. They want their men to be independent and adventurous, Alphas (or potential Alphas) with their own purpose and ability to fight for a cause. They don’t want their men to be dependent on the woman for anything other than physical love, conversation, wisdom and truth. Their mission in everything, including sex, is related to a higher purpose. And they want their men to be able to be humble and gentle and vulnerable too… but will never betray or abuse this.